Kids birthdays... who do you invite?

I was following along a post on my local year 1 school FB group and the question came up about who you 'have' to invite to parties. Last year in kindy my son was invited to most parties, but then there were a few that he missed out on, and boy did that cause chaos. This year I have felt that they have more established friendship groups so perhaps inviting just close friends is now acceptable. And possibly the best way to achieve this is by personally giving invitations to the parents rather than have the child or teacher hand them out in class? 

What has worked for you and what are your birthday invitation rules that are working for your school group? 

Newcastle's 'Massive Food Nerd' makes it through to the top 24 of Masterchef

HUGE congratulations to Newcastle's Reece Hignell who made it through to the top 24 on Masterchef. A self professed food nerd, Reece said that he prefers to stay home on a Saturday and research food combinations and techniques than head out on the town.  We'll be cheering you on this year Reece! 

Do you know a local mum who should audition for next year's Masterchef? Tag them now! 

Kids and the dentist

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I remember as a child that I was always taken to the dentist for regular check ups and mum and dad were right onto me about brushing my teeth. I've been lucky enough not to have too many dental problems. So because of this I've been extremely careful about my own kids' teeth and care. I'm known in my circle of friends to be quite strict on their diet and so they've only really ever had milk and water to drink. I also brush all their teeth and will continue to do so until they're over 8. So, imagine my surprise when I took my 6 year old to the dentist only to be told that two of his baby teeth need to be extracted because they're so bad that it would be hitting the nerve. I burst into tears in the dentist's room amidst her questions of diet and dental care. Then the following week we went back to have the teeth removed and walked out an hour later with all teeth still in tact and an appointment for surgery at Maitland Private Hospital at the end of this month. My son was so distressed AFTER having the needles that he literally refused to open his mouth and just sat and cried. Poor little man. 

Have you had experience with the dentist with children at a young age? Put me out of my misery that I'm not the only one...

How to transition your Baby to a BIG BED by NHM Mummas

My baby was always a good sleeper but transiting to a single bed has been TOUGH. Here is some advice from NHM Mummas about how to get your little bubba to transition to a big bed. 

Danee Norro We are all about star charts in our house. Buy some fun stickers so when they make small achievements they get to choose and put the sticker on. Make the chart together, We didn't think the chart would work but it really does and it still does years down the track. Kmart have books of stickers. We have things like.

Eat all dinner

Stayed in bed all night

Tidy toys

No nastiness 

Then used to have Toilet training stuff on there too.

Angela Eastham We bought a gro clock.. my son would always get out of his bed and take him forever to get to sleep... since buying gro clock he has improved

We had some issues with both of ours when transitioning. We bought a bed rail which I found really helped with making them feel secure. Then we did a reward system for nights in their big bed. It takes some time but they do get there. We also used a night light and snuggle toys

Ko Bee A super strict routine and no day sleeps its tiring however... a book , sing a song, scratch back a lay and a cuddle. Is how I started with a chat about the day. 

Take her to the shops to choose a special toy to sleep with and a night light. 

Lauren Boyton I set up the portacot, when she got up i said if you get up again you go in the baby bed, next time she got out she got put in the portacot. Once asleep i transferred her to her big bed so she woke in it.

My son took his favourite toy off him and said bunny will come back when your asleep. I only had to do it a few times for each of them

Bec Innes We got our son a smaller toddler bed and put up a rail. He loves the secure feeling and adjusted easier after that. We also put a baby gate on the door. It still took a few weeks for us but i never offered the cot or a porta cot just persisted.

Emily Cargill With my 1.5 year old we started with naps in his big boy bed, favorite toy, and nice music before full nights. We made his room a nice fun place that was safe/ comfortable for him that he could go in there by himself if needed. He played up a bit at first since he used to nap in our bed or the pram but soon got used it. Some nights I'd just get him to sleep by any means then put him in his big boy bed so he woke up in a familiar place just different. He would wake in the middle of the night at first, I'd get him a drink, then sing or just lay there until he settled. Now he sleeps through most nights in his bed unless it's really cold then he comes in with us. All together it is a big process and we had some bad nights but it ended up being worth it. He knows that if he needs to he can sleep with us but I know it is hard(I don't sleep well with him in or bed).

Jacki Adams We've gone with a pretty strict routine. Finish milk in bed; read some books together in bed; lay head down on pillow to finish last book and tuck in; turn on Raffy with lullaby; we have a Kmart night light that projects stars so I tell my daughter I'm going to turn out the light and turn on the stars & then I shut the door. Some nights are better than others but I've found being consistent is the biggest thing.

Good Luck! 

Cher in Newcastle

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I don't know about you but as I sit here trying to settle my 5 month old while enduring many 'mistakes' while my 2 year old potty trains I think going to Cher sounds like a fantastic idea! I can see you ladies gripping a bubbles and singing along to 'if I could turn back time' when Cher kicks off her Australian tour in Newcastle on September 26. By the way how cool is Newcastle getting this show first?! I swear we're getting totally popular haha. 

How to get your kids to eat dinner at the table

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I used to do Stand Up Comedy in Melbourne with Madeleine West. We all questioned as to why Dee from Neighbours would want to do Open Mic nights with us but we were happy to hang out with her. I haven't seen Mads for years but I followed on as she married hot Vue De Monde chef Shannon Bennett and they raised a family of their own. 

Long story short Mads is unreal and she now has 6 kids. We'll definitely get her on our Radio Show shortly but before we do I thought I'd share her tip for getting your kids to eat dinner at the table. 

She and Shannon play board games with the kids at the table! Mads said 'Make sure all of them stay at the table and make some loose rules, like, "You have to eat three mouthfuls of your dinner before it's your turn", "You can't touch the dice until you've eaten three big mouthfuls".'

She added that this approach also allows her to carve out a small portion of quality time with her children, Phoenix, Hendrix, Xascha, Xanthe and twins Margaux and Xalia. Nice one! 

 

Have you tried to keep things amicable for the kids?

Growing up, we had friends who had separated yet remained really close because of their two daughters. I used to really admire them for their maturity and have also recently heard that they have just bought a house together. Sometimes it can be incredibly hard to keep things friendly particularly if one partner feels they have been treated unfairly, and then it can be hard when either party begins a new relationship. 

If a split family is what your life is, how have you managed? Are you and your ex still friends, or trying to appear that way for the kids?

First look at newborn Prince Louis

As mum's we're suckers for newborns. That cute little cry, the adorable little hands they're just so beautiful aren't they? Kate has taken two photos of Prince Louis Arthur Charles fifth in line to the throne and released them to the world. 

Kate broke from tradition when she insisted that the Royal photographer was not to take early photos of her kids and that she in fact would take them herself. Way to go Mumma. 

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OMG Mum Moments

Honestly somedays I just think how on earth did I survive that? With potty training has come several of those days. I was hanging the washing out on the line yesterday and I hear 'noooo buddy' I run back to see what's happened. Summer has missed going to the potty and done it in her knickers that's ok. The problem however was the dog treating the contents of her undies like a gourmet meal. Savouring every bit and then smiling at me afterwards as I pulled him away. WOW I never envisaged any of this before I was a parent but OMG! What was your last OMG Mum Moment? 

Will the Jets win tonight?

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I love the way Newcastle gets behind their sporting teams. That feeling of community is a beautiful one and whether you’re into the Jet’s final or not tonight, surely an event such as this should be celebrated. 

Their journey from the back of the pack to grand finalists  hasn't been an easy one with injuries and the mid-season departure of Andrew Nabbout ensuring Newcastle's ascent hasn't always been smooth.

But experts are tipping it may go the Jet’s way tonight because of Newcastle’s ability to rise above those issues. 

Some are worried without Jack Duncan in goals there may be problems but this is a team that can adapt and with an anticipated 30,000 Newcastle fans cheering them on tonight surely all players will be on the ball (pun intended). 

The Melbourne Victory haven’t been very victorious at McDonald Jones Stadium in the past winning only 3 out of 19 games there. Let’s hope they continue that losing streak woooooo! I mean we wish them all the best. 

Where are you and your family watching the Grand Final? 

Newcastle's busy weekend

Wow, Newcastle is turning it on this weekend! Last night we braved the cold and went to Knights stadium to watch our beloved knights and tonight the soccer grand final is on and boy do I wish I was going to that! There are also special big screens set up at outdoor places that you can watch the game on. From Sarge and I... GO JETS!

Tocal Field Day is also on this weekend until tomorrow. If you haven't been, it's a great day out for the family. 

Are you or your kids looking for work? Here's a Tip

Are you or your kids looking to get into the work force? Here's a tip according to new research avoid degrees like arts or science or anything does doesn't leave you job ready after you complete the course. After struggling through many years of a law degree I was rather astounded to find that in no way was I prepared to be a lawyer, in fact, I wasn't even properly qualified, there were still other studies to complete to be admitted to practice and more years of study if I wanted to be a barrister. 

TAFE was once thought of as a second cousin to Uni but it's is now being viewed in a more positive fashion because it's purposeful, cost-effective and guaranteed to produce results. Employers get job ready employees and graduates leave feeling confident that they can do the job. 

 

What type of parent are you?

Until recently I hadn't really thought about what kind of parent I was. You just woke up each day and did your best right? Recently my partner and I have started to 'blend' our families and have come across some obvious differences in our parenting styles and it has helped in a way to know which parenting categories we fall under so that we can try to understand how each of us parent. My partner is a definite helicopter and I have to admit to being a tiger with a fair amount of free range. Hopefully we can figure out some common ground to 'blend' both of our styles. 

 

So, are you wondering which category you fall under?

Attachment: focuses on very little separation between the mother and child during early childhood

Holistic: placing great awareness on loving and respecting all beings, eco friendliness is important and discipline is not

Conscious: A conscious parent is an influence, not an authoritative figure. The child is often the boss

Permissive: very little rues and guidelines

Free Range: allows children to be free to explore the world at their own pace and with independence

Authoritative: follows the approach that children need rules, regulations and expectations to succeed

Tiger: tend to 'hover' over the kids protecting from threats and dangers

Baby Led: routine and structure are guided by the baby, not the parents

#MUMLIFE The Struggle is Real

Summer and Lillian are regulars at my Family Yoga Studio The Ohana Room, Cardiff

Summer and Lillian are regulars at my Family Yoga Studio The Ohana Room, Cardiff

Honestly, I don’t know how you do it Mummas? You're expected to bring in some kind of income so the family can go ahead a little but you have babies everywhere and childcare is expensive and hard to come by. I have a spirited 2 year old and a 5 month old and the struggle is real. 

The first time the baby weight just fell off but since I gave birth I’ve ballooned at the rate of knots just because every spare moment is spent on working for my small business or at the radio station. I use up all my babysitting tokens with my partner or parents to work and then there’s none left for any downtime or training time. I bet you’re in a similar situation? Any time I try to take both of them out to do something it’s a massive event.  I tried to go to a MEGA class this morning and my toddler navigated the baby gate and went to run out onto the road so we had to leave. 

My eating choices are vegemite toast crusts and bits of whatever’s going around, my drinking choices are constant and without a wine, I fear I may well just lose my sanity. 

For anyone giving this #MUMLIFE a go, kids, work the whole shebang. I take my hat off to you. You are truely amazing Mumma never forget that. 

Ps. what’s for dinner? haha!

The Kindness of Strangers...

When I first moved here it didn't take long for me to see how generous Novocastrians can be. Some people would give you the shirt off their back and I've been blown away sometimes at just how far people go to help out someone in need. So it didn't really surprise me to see a story that the Newcastle Herald reported about the 73 year old Jets member who was gifted a Grand Final ticket after she missed out. 

It's a beautiful story. Basically, Lorraine Cox lined up for hours for a ticket, missed out (like heaps of others) so left disappointed. She must have made an impression on the lady behind her who also missed out on a ticket. Doreen Hislop suddenly had her hands on a spare ticket and wanted to track Lorraine down. Lorraine had mentioned that she had in the past won a ticket to Ed Sheeran at a Jets game so Doreen contacted the Jets to see if they had her details still and they did! So the die hard fan is able to go thanks to the generosity of a stranger! Brilliant, I love it!

 

Go Jets!

Help on the way for women getting back into the workforce

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Here's the beautiful Bec and I at a recent photoshoot all dolled up. Doesn't it make you feel good? I can tell you I felt so much better then than the time I walked into Coles late at night seeking nappies without a bra and with baby vomit on my top. 

A not for profit called Dress for Success might be on it's way to the Hunter. They empower women in need glamming them up and dressing them nicely for job interviews etc. 

Chief executive Ursula McGeown said“Women in regional areas face particular challenges in entering employment and shaping their lives in positive ways. This is an opportunity to understand the needs of women in Newcastle, and how we may extend our work to help address these needs in a meaningful way in the future.” Their feasibility study for New and the Hunter is being carried out as we speak. Hope it gets up, it would be such a help for mums returning to work who wear clothes with baby vomit on them all day and stained track suit pants. 

Way to go "Dress for Success". They're calling on volunteers, so if you'd like to help other ladies put their best stiletto forward contact - newcastle@dfssydney.org.

Have you pulled your kids out of swimming lessons over winter?

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One year I decided that it was just too cold to be bundling my then 2 year old son up to take him to his swimming lessons early on a Sunday morning. So between May and September I pulled him out. When we returned, he screamed and screamed for about 6 weeks. Never again! I try now not to ever miss a lesson. I do totally understand the reasoning behind it though. I hate even getting out of bed to get changed in the morning when the weather is cold, let alone those poor kids having to get changed and then running outside with wet hair. 

 

What do you do and what are your reasons behind it?

Warm up with NHM it's Soup Time

Sweet Potato, Miso and Sage Soup Erin Dreaming of Almonds

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Ok Mummas, it’s cooling down, bring out the fluffy slippers and the warming food. Soup is so comforting on a cold day and the NHM Mummas have given us some ideas for great Soups you can make you and your family! 

CARROT AND SWEET POTATO SOUP

Katherine Vaughn Chop up a bag of carrots and a couple of sweet potatoes into large chunks. Chuck them into the pressure cooker. Add 4 to 6 cups of stock so the veg are covered. Cook on medium pressure for 15 to 20 mins or so. Check they're soft, then get a stick blender and blend them all until smooth (don't splash yourself in the face with hot carrot at this point, been there done that). Add about a half cup of sour cream and stir through. Taste and season with more stock powder or salt if needed, add up to another half cup of sour cream, etc, depending on how you like it. We serve it with crusty bread.

Those quantities are VERY rough, I make it up as I go along usually and just adjust the flavour at the end. This makes quite a lot of soup.

CHICKEN AND VEGETABLE SOUP

Eliza Tran 

A bbq chook broken up

1 carrot

1 zucchini

2 stalks of celery

1 onion 

A cup of chunky pumpkin 

Chop all veg according to how fine/ chunky you like it 

Handful of baby spinach 

A packet of rice vermicelli noodles

2 litres of chicken stock and a dash of curry powder (you can’t really taste it, just gives a bit of extra flavour)

Boil up the stock and veg then add your noodles last as they don’t take very long to cook. 

You could add little bits of pasta instead of noodles for something different too

CHCIKEN AND SWEET CORN SOUP

Elise Golby Easy chicken and corn soup like the Chinese shop makes. 1 BBQ chicken broken up, 2 litres of chicken stock, 1 can of creamed corn, 5 shallots chopped finely, 2 eggs beaten. Combine all ingredients except egg and bring to the boil then simmer for half hour. Add beaten eggs at the end and mix around quickly. Season how you like add chilli ect if that's what you like.

LEEK, POTATO AND PEA SOUP

2 leeks, pale section only, thinly sliced

2 large Crème Royale potatoes, peeled, coarsely chopped

4 cups (1L) chicken or vegetable stock

1 cup (120g) frozen peas

1/2 cup (125ml) thickened cream

Heat a large frying pan over medium heat. Add the leek and cook, stirring, for 5 mins or until leek softens. Add the potato and stock and bring to the boil. Reduce heat to low. 

Cook, stirring occasionally, for 20 mins or until potato is very tender and soup thickens slightly. Stir in the peas. Cook for 2 mins or until heated through. Set aside to cool slightly. 

Use a stick blender to blend until smooth. Add half the cream and stir to combine. Season. 

Ladle the soup evenly among serving bowls. Drizzle with the remaining cream.

LEBANESE YELLOW LENTIL SOUP

Jessica Oum Isaac 

2 cups red lentils

1/4 cup rice

1 brown onion, diced 

6 cups water

2 chicken stock cubes

1 teaspoon cumin

Vegetable oil for frying 

Salt to taste

White pepper to taste

 

Method

1.Wash lentils and rice well. 

2. In a pot heat vegetable oil and add diced onion. Fry until soft.

3. Add salt, cumin and stock cubes and mix. Add the lentils and rice and mix. Add water.

4. Bring to the boil and then simmer partially covered for approx. 40 minutes or until lentils change colour to yellow and soften. Keep stirring regularly as lentils stick to the pot!

5. Use stick blender to remove lumps and blend the soup to a nice consistency (personal preference on how smooth or lumpy).

6. Add salt and pepper to taste and more cumin if needed.

7. Serve garnished with parsley.

 

Notes:

The lentils absorb a lot of water so keep an eye on it and add more water as they cook if needed. The soup should be a thick soup consistency, but not pulpy.

PUMPKIN SOUP

Georgia Hennigar start off frying off a little bit of bacon (just for flavour), garlic and either onion or a leek as well as some celery.... then chop up pumpkin, carrots, potato, sweet potato... cover in stock and let it simmer away until veg is soft..... blitz it up and before serving add in either cream or greek yoghurt

Charlize Theron Depicts the 'Real' Motherhood in Tully

You know all those movies, like every movie that depicts birth and motherhood as the breeze that it's not. As I went in between my toddler with a sore throat and a middle ear infection and my 5 month old with this weird rash and runny poo illness and watched this trailer, something resonated. Her feelings of unsexiness, exhaustion, skirting close to the mental edge was something I could relate to so I can't wait to go see Tully! 

It is copping some flack though. Maternal mental health advocate Lisa Tremayne,  director of the Center for Perinatal Mood and Anxiety Disorders at one of the largest birthing hospitals in New Jersey said "This is such a missed opportunity to help stop the stigma. Sadly, so many women are already planning a moms' night out to see this movie. We must issue a warning." Motherly digital education editor, midwife, and pediatric nurse, Diana Spalding says "Motherhood is hard, yes, but it is not this. This is mental illness. Brushing aside her mental illness again refuses to give it the attention it deserves adding "Theron's character, Marlo, isn't just an exhausted and overwhelmed new mum still grappling with baby weight and an impossible mess of a house amid caring for two children in addition to her newborn, she's also a delusional, dangerous and a manic mum.

I'm not so sure I agree? Love to know your thoughts on the trailer?